Lately I've felt like such a mean mom! I feel like I spend more time getting mad and inflicting consequences (aka pain and torture, according to my kids), resulting in tears shed, doors slammed and severe pouting by all parties. That is, until last night.... DUN-DUN-DUN!
Then it occurred to me. The problem isn't about me being too mean, but rather, me being too nice! I don't let them get away with murder... but I realized that I try to give my kids the benefit of the doubt. I don't like them to suffer. And to be perfectly honest, I don't want to make my life miserable, so I tend to look the other way on some things.
THE END RESULT???
2 boys that are completely rotten! They fight, argue and scream about EVERYTHING! They ignore their chores... but I'm often too busy to notice. They have no manners. They talk back. In essence, THEY DRIVE ME CRAZY!!!
SOLUTION: I'm going to start crackin' down, baby!
But not by getting mad... I realized that I don't have to make their life miserable. My goal is to make them accountable. Bottom line... I don't have to be mean to be "THE MOM!" I WILL remain calm. I WILL be consistent. I WILL succeed.
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Seriously - if you aren't already familiar, google "Love and Logic." You will love it. It is just what you are talking about. I was trained in it as a teacher and took a few classes for it as a parent. It is simple, basic stuff to help parents be consistent without screaming or stressing out. Now if I just would implement it, I'm sure it would work great! lol I should look it up myself. I think they have a great website and free podcasts. FYI. Good luck!
You rock! You go girl. xoxo